How Do You Say Goodbye?

Today I had the worst news.

One of my oldest friends, someone who’s been there through thick and thin, passed away today.

She was 27.

I remember first meeting her when the girl who lived in the room next to me in halls at first year of uni introduced me.

She was one of those people who just looked inherently cool.

She had her own style, kind of like a combo of skater chick and emo-chic, but that just doesn’t even come close.

She was Awesome.

It didn’t take long to realise that we were actually in most of the same classes for lectures.

It also didn’t take long to realise that we got on really well. Just clicked if you will.

We would go to the pub for lunch, have a pint of water and sit there chatting and eating our lunch.

We would go out clubbing on a weds and thurs as they were the cheap nights.

She’d dance what could only be described as her own style of dancing, complete with lil jumps in the air.

We’d talk about our courses, who we fancied or were with at the time, whether God existed, what was the deal with Freud and his beliefs. You name it, we’ve spoken about it.

I remember the first time she came to visit after Zack was born. He was about 8 days old, and I needed to go get his milk, so I handed him to her. She held him at arms length and had that “what do I do, I think I might hurt him!” kind of look on her face, but I knew… knew he was safe with her. She was the first person who wasn’t family to ever hold him.

Fast forward a few years and both the boys would light up when they saw her come through the door. Even when Max was going through his “everyone scares me so I’m going to scream till they leave” phase, she could hold him and he wouldn’t bat an eyelid.

She came over to my house the day after she found out that I’d split from the boys’ dad, cooked us a pasta bake and helped me get the boys to bed. We stayed up chatting till about 3am talking.

She would watch the boys for me when I had the chance to go to the cinema, or even just so I could have an evening through the wall at my friend’s house.

She met Dean and they got on instantly. He said she had a “class taste in music”. I knew they’d get on, Jenny knows the good ones from the bad.

We talked about how we’d have barbeques this summer at my new house out on the deck.

Today we had our first barbeque here.

Today one of my best friends in the whole world passed from this world into whatever lies beyond.

No one knew it was coming. It was a complete shock.

I keep expecting her to call up and say it was a prank, or a huge mistake.

I wish she would.

Love you loads Jenny. Rest in peace sweetheart. I will always remember you and your awesome self. You are going to be so so missed. xxx

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  1. July 13, 2010 / 1:30 am

    hey. i had you totally on my mind today. and this must be why. i felt you all the way across the Atlantic ,the east coast and the Midwest. i cannot imagine how this feels. but i feel sad. if you need to talk, you know where to find me.

  2. July 13, 2010 / 1:40 am

    It’s amazing how we can connect to others sometimes isn’t it? Thank you for thinking of me. I just feel so sad for her family. I feel awful, I can’t imagine how they must be feeling right now. 🙁 x

  3. July 13, 2010 / 1:44 am

    Hugs. Enormous hugs. Huge big fat, cuddle you and never let go hugs.

    I’m so sorry Marylin. Thoughts are with you.

  4. July 13, 2010 / 3:34 am

    Oh Marylin. Loads of hugs to you. May your friend rest in peace.xx

  5. July 13, 2010 / 4:24 am

    Thanks sweety. I haven’t been able to sleep a wink. I can’t think how her family are coping right now. 🙁

  6. July 13, 2010 / 9:26 am

    If I was the hugging type I would give you a huge hug. You must feel like a piece of you has gone missing. True friendships are so hard to find. I’m sorry to hear about her and hope you can eventually get round to smiling at all the wonderful memories that you clearly have.

  7. July 13, 2010 / 3:10 pm

    Thanks sweety. Didn’t get any sleep last night at all. Thankfully Zack has been a wee star today, including saying that if he could see Jen again he’d tell her he loves her. Of course that completely set me up again. He also asked if she might be able to talk to Santa for him now that she’s in heaven! Bless his lil heart. 🙂 x

  8. July 13, 2010 / 3:10 pm

    Thanks sweetheart xx

  9. July 13, 2010 / 3:39 pm

    Oh I am so sorry & how sad that she left you at such a young age. You will never say good bye to her & this post was such a lovely way to remember her.

  10. July 13, 2010 / 4:50 pm

    Thanks Julia it just keeps hitting me that she’s not with us anymore. Although if the gorgeous weather here today is anything to go by, I think she’s still looking out for us. 🙂 x

  11. July 13, 2010 / 7:09 pm

    You can just look at her photo and see she was full of fun.
    28? So sad.

  12. July 13, 2010 / 8:56 pm

    So sorry to hear this Marylin, such a huge loss for you and for her family. Hugs from me. Jen

  13. July 13, 2010 / 10:39 pm

    She really was! Such a great person to be around, you couldn’t help but be relaxed and happy around Jenny. 🙂 x

  14. July 13, 2010 / 10:40 pm

    Thanks sweety. I can’t imagine how hard this is for her family, when I think of how it is for me. I couldn’t even bare it if something happened to one of my boys. She’s been taken way too soon from this world.

  15. July 14, 2010 / 10:27 pm

    So sorry to hear about your best friend Marilyn. I feel for her family and for you and your family. This is a lovely post to her memory. ((xx)) xx Jazzy

  16. July 18, 2010 / 3:45 am

    Oh Marilyn, I’m so sorry! How devastating, especially since she is so young and it is so unexpected. Sending warm thoughts and big hugs your way. xoxo

    I’m sorry I’m so late in seeing this. I’m behind in my reading. So much going on right now.

  17. July 18, 2010 / 2:46 pm

    Thanks sweety, and hey, don’t even think about apologising… you’ve got a *lot* on right now. You know where I am if you want to talk ok? xx

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