J Notes, from Notes to Self Plus Two has come up with a great idea for us “mummybloggers”.

So much of the time, we focus on our children. That is how it should be of course, our kids do need to be our priority in life. Particularly when they are so little.

Thing is though, what a lot of people forget is that you need to take care of yourself to be able to give your best to your children. You need to remember who YOU are, to show them that Mum isn’t *just* a mum, but she’s her own person too.

In her words:

What if we took some time to think, consider and blog about the me? What if we took the β€œAre we Mummy Bloggers?” debate and changed the language to say β€œI blog for me, and I am a Mummy too.”

Our first prompt is the following…

What have you realised about you through your blogging?

I’ve been blogging for just over three years now, though only the last year or so has been here on softthistle.net.

There have been many ups and downs since I started.

From post natal depression back in the early days of Max, to a divorce, moving to a new town, a new relationship, splitting up from that, an autism diagnosis, and now, finally feeling like I’ve got my own groove going.

Blogging has definitely helped me to find out more about who I am.

The community we have here in our UK bloggy world is one to be reckoned with.

I’ve laughed, I’ve cried, I’ve cheered, and I’ve been completely overwhelmed by the blogging world.

I’ve finally found more of a balance than I’ve had before.

Whether that’s more because of Max being at nursery for a couple of hours 3 days a week, having finally made some honest to god real life friends who I see regularly and adore spending time with, or being closer to my parents.

Something has just clicked.

I have realised how much I adore photography, and have learned more in the last three years about it than I knew existed. I wouldn’t have learned anywhere near as much as I have if it weren’t for meeting some wonderful fellow photogs through blogging, and connecting with them.

I’ve come to understand how much I adore connecting with other people. I’m a very empathetic person. I can’t help but feel drawn to people, and want to make them feel good about themselves. Something a lot of we blogging mums seem to lack in.

I’ve found my voice, my passions, and something that, really, I am actually pretty good at.

I don’t think I would have got to where I am now if it weren’t for the friends I’ve made through blogging. Constantly helping to remind me to raise the bar, to strive to be better than I am, to find out what inspires me.

Really, blogging has a lot to answer for, and you know what? It’s a bloody good thing!

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  1. January 10, 2011 / 12:22 am

    Oh I agree.
    Non bloggy people look at me like I have two heads when I try to explain how much love and support and wisdom I receive from the blogging and twitter community. But it is awesome. I have met wonderful people through blogging/tweeting, whom I never would have come across in ‘real’ life. Sure, there are some nutters out there (possibly myself included), and trolls and bots, but most people are genuine and wise and fun. I blog to keep writing through a difficult part of my life, to document our lives, and because it does keep me in touch with the stuff I love about my life, and they stuff I don’t. It’s enabled me to find me much easier than in the past. If that makes sense.
    Good luck on your journey. xo

  2. January 10, 2011 / 3:07 am

    And you? are awesome. xx

  3. January 10, 2011 / 9:34 am

    Aww, thanks sweety! The feeling is mutual you know. πŸ™‚ xx

  4. January 10, 2011 / 9:38 am

    Bronnie, you’ve just said in one paragraph what I took a whole post to say!
    I often find that if I’m worried or upset about something, writing it out is very cathartic for me. Particularly if Max is having a bad day.
    Oh if only there was such a thing as a teleportation device eh?
    Or imagine if we all lived in the same city! That would be the craziest city in the world, but oh so much fun! πŸ™‚

  5. January 10, 2011 / 1:20 pm

    I raise my glass to you Marylin. You are a wonderful person.

  6. January 10, 2011 / 2:29 pm

    As are you sweety! 3 months!!! πŸ˜€

  7. January 10, 2011 / 5:40 pm

    Connecting to people is really so important isn’t it, my Mum always says she was stuck in a new town with a toddler and a new baby and no way to get to know anyone! Thank heavens for the blogging community and Twitter!

  8. January 10, 2011 / 8:57 pm

    Exactly! My mum was in a similar situation when she had my older brother back in the 60s. They had moved from Glasgow down to somewhere on the south coast of England, had no phone, and she knew no one. I don’t know how on earth she coped!
    I swear, the internet keeps me sane! Or at least, as sane as I’m likely to get… πŸ˜‰

  9. January 10, 2011 / 9:40 pm

    I’d have to second so much of the stuff here…the Internet certainly keeps me sane especially as I’m housebound so much these days as a carer. I love the connections that I’m slowly making as my confidence builds and so many people have made me so welcome, you’re definitely one of those, Marylin πŸ™‚

  10. January 11, 2011 / 5:20 am

    Great post, great sentiments, but I must disagree with one point you’ve made – you are much MORE than ‘pretty’ good at this! πŸ™‚

  11. January 11, 2011 / 9:43 am

    This is why I love the internet… my friends are in it! πŸ™‚

  12. January 11, 2011 / 9:43 am

    *blushes* Thank you! πŸ™‚

  13. January 11, 2011 / 9:44 am

    Powah to the bloggers-who-happen-to-be-mums! Hmm, doesn’t have quite the right ring to it does it?

  14. January 11, 2011 / 4:01 pm

    Hey there,
    thanks for playing on the first week and being the second linky. i love your post, reads just so genuine and heart-felt – love it.
    I am honoured to be a blogger you know. Blogging truly is fab isn’t it.
    hope to see you next week. xx

  15. January 11, 2011 / 5:19 pm

    It’s *such* a great idea, I only wish I’d thought of it myself! LOL πŸ™‚

    Will see you next week!

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