Positivity

People often say to me “You’re so positive! I don’t know how you do it!”.

And it’s true.

I’m a glass half full person. Always have been, more or less.

Well, since I’ve been a grown up at least.

That’s not to say I’ve had an easy or happy life.

Many things have gone wrong, and will go wrong in the future.

The thing is though, even when something does go wrong, I always look for the silver lining.

I seem to just do it without thinking!

I mean, yeah, Max is on the autistic spectrum, but he is on the mild end, and for that I’m thankful.

He’s a happy cheeky lil chappy, and is learning so much every day.

How can I not focus on how wonderful he is?

Or when Zack is being a wee sod and keeping Max up at night?

You know, it’s only because he thinks he’s helping, and wants to cheer up his little brother, and make his mummy happy.

How can I possibly just think of him as being a naughty child?

No way!

Some people think my life must be so hard as I’m single. “I couldn’t do it” they say.

Well, yes. There are times when it is tricky. Particularly with all this snow about, it would certainly help to have someone else around to help with watching the kids so one of us could go out and get the shopping and such.

On the other hand, I’m so much happier on my own, that I’d much rather rely on the wonderful friends and family I have to help out than be with someone and be unhappy!

I remember, before I went on anti depressants all those years ago, nothing could pull me out of it but Zack.

His happy little giggle, his cuddles, he made me realise just how lucky I was. Just how lucky I still am, but doubly so now Max is around.

Sometimes it’s really hard to focus on the positives that are already in your life. Especially when there are so many things that are out of your control. Whether it’s debts, a divorce, or a diagnosis of something you never expected to deal with.

Those are the times when I dig deep and focus on my positives. On how lucky I am compared to some people. Compared to a lot of people.

So here’s an idea for you. Next time you’re feeling down, and that everything is getting on top of you, just start thinking about the good things in your life.

I guarantee you’ll have a longer list than you thought you would!

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19 Comments

  1. December 9, 2010 / 3:08 pm

    No wonder we get on so well 😀 Jen

  2. December 9, 2010 / 3:26 pm

    What a great attitude you have!! I loved reading this and getting to know a little more about you. x

  3. December 9, 2010 / 3:29 pm

    Thanks Karen, it’s just the way I’m wired I suppose! 🙂 x

  4. December 9, 2010 / 3:40 pm

    I find it amazing the number of people who say to me ‘You always seem happy’. I tend to think, well, surely it’s better than always seeming miserable. Why project negativity about. Urgh. I am sure life must be dreadful for some people and it might feel it for people who are far better off than me, but then I think about what I have got and am thankful and happy with that. Sure I could have more stuff, be in better health, etc but there’s nobody but me can do much about that and no point whining about it!

    I know someone who always thinks that things will go wrong, or are awful for him – guess what – most of the time the crap stuff does happen to him. Someone else thinks positive and happy – guess what – good things happen to him. I don’t think that is a coincidence! Actually they both get pretty similar things out of life, they just see and live them differently. I know which one is more fulfilled 🙂

  5. December 9, 2010 / 3:53 pm

    Oh god yes… YES this is exactly what I mean! If you think positively, the things that do happen to you will be much more enjoyable than if you don’t! Spot on sweety! 🙂 x

  6. December 9, 2010 / 4:24 pm

    Beautiful! I so agree with you, that it’s all about attitude. I’ve know people that always see the good and people that always see the bad. Their lives may not be that different, but it’s their attitude that makes them happy or unhappy. I like to surround myself with the former.

    It’s funny, even with all I’ve been through the last six months, all the devastation, there are moments of just pure joy. I feel blessed to have my children and I feel the future is mine to create. It’s exciting. I’m glad you feel the same way. xx

  7. December 9, 2010 / 5:01 pm

    It is very exciting! Do you remember when I said you’d get through it all and feel so much happier once you had? Well, look at you now! *hugs* and love xxx

  8. December 9, 2010 / 8:41 pm

    I want to cut this post out and tape it to my fridge. Life is great (and hard),and it’s so cool to have pals like you who can see that too XXX

  9. December 9, 2010 / 10:11 pm

    It’s great to hear lots of people feel the same, it’s the best attitude to have! 🙂

  10. December 10, 2010 / 4:12 am

    I think this is why I love you – you balance my cynical side really well!

    xx

  11. December 10, 2010 / 9:00 am

    And I love your cynical side as it makes me think of the other side of things. Plus, you’re kinda funny with it! 😉 x

  12. tanya
    December 11, 2010 / 11:52 am

    i love people like you! I wholeheartedly agree hun, i just wish i could be that sort of person but im usually telling others how to look on the bright side!

  13. December 11, 2010 / 11:53 am

    This is a wonderful heart-warming post. Enjoy all the moments you have with your boys, they will be wonderful ones to remember and the payback will be wonderful.

  14. December 11, 2010 / 2:38 pm

    I think it’s always easier to give advice than it is to take it! Glad to hear from you sweety. 🙂 xxx

  15. December 11, 2010 / 2:39 pm

    Thanks Debby, that’s the idea! 🙂

    Hope you have a great weekend! x

  16. December 13, 2010 / 12:52 am

    I am firmly entrenched as a glass half empty person, and I hate it (you see – negative). Your advice is very good. I need to tape some notes around the house saying “think positively” and “there is a silver lining to this”.

  17. December 13, 2010 / 1:12 pm

    Yes, and just imagine me saying it having just downed a jaegerbomb… that’ll bring a smile to you if nothing else does! 😉

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