Sometimes I Wonder…

I wonder about what I’ll do for a living once the boys are safely at school and I have to get a job to support us.

There are the things I’d *love* to do,

like being a photographer (lifestyle!),

maybe being a support person for families who have been where I am,

or even being a life coach. Lets face it, I’m positive enough, and I like helping people feel better about themselves.

Of course there’s always the (very teensy) possibility that some wonderful multi-millionaire could find my blog and think I’m an inspiration and donate a couple million to me and my boys…(ok so that’s a fantasy, but still, you never know!).

I wonder if I’d ever be able to write a book.

It’d probably be about living with autism in the family, since that’s what I *know.

Or about finding yourself, and learning how to let go of the negativity in your life maybe?

I don’t know.

Realistically though, I’m a single parent with two children to support.

Assuming (hopefully!) that once Max is grown he can live his own life, I will have to get a job.

I just don’t know what I’d be able to do.

No idea.

At all.

It’s nice to have ideas and thoughts about what I might like to do, but I’ve got to think about the reality of it all as well.

Would photography or writing make enough money for me to pay the bills?

Would I be better off working in a regular job that pays well and hope that they’re flexible for childcare and such?

I guess time will tell.

All I can do is try to improve on myself and learn as much as I can in the next few years,

and hope that once the time comes, I’ll know what to do with my life…

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  1. February 10, 2011 / 12:06 am

    I hope so. 🙂

  2. February 10, 2011 / 12:07 am

    Hmm, I’ll have a wee look and see. Thanks Lindsay! 🙂

  3. February 10, 2011 / 12:08 am

    “hoping that something emerges from the blogging” – THIS is me through and through! I’m taking my time and know I’m in for the long haul… fingers crossed it leads to more eventually – though it’s not something that will just come along if you stay passive. Know what I mean?

  4. February 10, 2011 / 12:08 am

    Aww Jo, thank you sweety! xx

  5. February 10, 2011 / 12:52 am

    I am with Veronica on this, something will come up and it will be perfect. Things happen for a reason and doors open all the time, we just have to grab the opportunity when it arises. Keep tipping away at your photography, you are very talented and you just never know what may happen 🙂 Jen

  6. February 10, 2011 / 2:38 am

    Something will come to you and it will end up being perfect.

  7. February 10, 2011 / 8:45 am

    Veronica is right, something will come up! In the meantime, your photos are beautiful – have you thought about putting a selection on something like and seeing if you can sell them? It might give you a confidence boost and isn’t so difficult to set up…

    Good luck 🙂 x

  8. February 10, 2011 / 9:00 am

    Maybe you could do a bit of all those things – portfolio careers are all the rage DYN 🙂 FYI after my son was diagnosed with aspergers, I read nothing but books on the subject and especially stories of how families coped – the guys in the Facebook group say the same, so there’s definitely a market for that.

    I have the same thoughts as well and am just hoping that something emerges from the blogging xx

  9. February 10, 2011 / 10:47 am

    I think you’d be great at any of those things……… you are great at those things! 🙂

    Why not take a look at the site Lindsey suggested, I’m sure you’d sell some of you pictures, they’re awesome! xx

  10. February 10, 2011 / 6:49 pm

    Thanks sweety. I hope all’s ok with you all, thinking of you. xxx

  11. February 10, 2011 / 9:42 pm

    I think anyone reading your work would get a good idea of what a great person you are. Your blog is an effective shop window. I’m sure whatever happens it will all be good, coz good things happen to good peeps, innit.

  12. February 10, 2011 / 10:35 pm

    I’m at that wondering stage too. My girls both started full time school this week. Now I have to cross my fingers and hope the settle in okay. Then look at my job options.

  13. February 10, 2011 / 10:51 pm

    I really do bet something fantastic will come along for you!

    I often wonder what I’ll end up doing when I’ve stopped bing a stay-at-home mum. I really want to try something new but what? Well what I’d really love to be is a photographer – there I’ve actually said it out loud now!! I’ve finally found something I’m passionate about and would love to do for a living but I’ve no idea where to start or whether it is just a dream.

  14. February 11, 2011 / 10:53 am

    Aww shucks! Thanks HUN! 🙂

  15. February 11, 2011 / 10:54 am

    It’s a scary thought isn’t it? I went from uni straight to having kids, so never had a career. Hence trying to figure out my options now so I can work on it, know what I mean? Good luck with school starting, and the job hunt! x

  16. February 11, 2011 / 10:56 am

    That’s what I’d love to do too, but then, as I live off benefits at the moment, as soon as you register self employed they all go, so I’d need to be earning a good chunk of money per month to pay the bills and be able to live. Not sure I’d like the instability of that, know what I mean? >_<

  17. February 11, 2011 / 5:00 pm

    Would photography or writing make enough money for me to pay the bills?
    Why not I say! xx

  18. February 11, 2011 / 5:33 pm

    I’m not sure, and THAT is the problem. :S

  19. February 11, 2011 / 6:23 pm

    Good luck. I haven’t decided what I want to be when I grow up yet!

  20. February 11, 2011 / 6:23 pm

    Oh, also, I second what Him Up North said.

  21. February 11, 2011 / 8:45 pm

    Thanks sweety, I’m sure we’ll figure it out eventually! 😉

  22. February 12, 2011 / 6:52 pm

    Your photography is beautiful hun, why not start looking into it now? Make contacts, do a bit of research into how much you can earn and things, slowly get in to it, see if you like it? Then it wont be a big shock!

  23. February 12, 2011 / 11:16 pm

    Problem is, I need to be careful as if I want to really make a go of it, all above board, then I can only do so much before it changes the benefits I get, and as that’s what we live off at the moment, I’d need to be earning a fair amount to keep us afloat and comfortably. Know what I mean? So I think just learning and growing and maybe building up a wee portfolio is the way to go. For now. 🙂

  24. February 13, 2011 / 6:25 am

    “learning and growing and maybe building up a wee portfolio is the way to go. For now.” sounds like a good plan. Then when you’re ready something will surely come your way. Aim to do something you enjoy that will also give you flexibility for your boys 🙂

  25. February 13, 2011 / 1:09 pm

    That’s the plan! It needs to be something I can fit around life, not the other way around. 🙂

  26. February 13, 2011 / 9:52 pm

    It sounds like getting a part time job three or four days, and fitting photography in around that, might be a way to have some security as well as doing something you love? It’s naff that you can’t build up self-employment and have the difference made up by benefits. :/

    Do you have a SureStart locally? Mine offers courses with free creche, I did a ‘women into business’ course which gave me loads of info about freelancing, and have done other things too.

    I’m sure things will work out for you, you deserve it.

  27. February 14, 2011 / 1:43 pm

    Thanks Kirsty. Problem is that where I live, I’d have to go into Perth for any courses, and with max and nursery and appointments, it’s not easy, in fact it’s impossible! :-/

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