Everywhere around us it’s all about the hustle.
Get your hustle on.
Fake it till you make it.
Everyone has the same hours in the day.
You’ve just got to want it enough to go for it all day every day.
And that’s great, really it is – I’m all for doing that if it’s how you like to do things.
But that doesn’t mean it’s the only way to be successful.
There are people who don’t have the energy levels to be hustling all the time. Whether that’s because of an illness (fibromyalgia here), or because they have young children who never sleep (check, though I don’t think Max is “young” anymore at 10!), or maybe because they’re working day in day out every week while also needing to spend time with their other half and children, keeping up with the house and making sure their social circle don’t think they’ve disappeared.
Everyone is different, and that’s ok.
That doesn’t mean you’ll never make it, it just means you have to do it on your terms – not how the latest tech guru or social media messiah is telling you to.
It’s so easy to get sucked into the hustle of the online business world.
It’s like it’s not enough to be who we are right now – we’re always supposed to be striving for more. More money, more followers, more work life balance, more self care, more spirituality/religion, more more more.
We’re constantly told we must spend as much time as possible bettering ourselves and hustling for our lives, and as a result, many of us have stopped being able to truly relax.
What if it didn’t have to be that way?
What if you could actually sit back and breathe. See where you are in life right now and think “you know what? I’m crushing it already!”
That isn’t to say not to have goals or ideas on how you want to evolve, but maybe it’s time to take the urgency away.
Maybe it’s time to let ourselves binge watch something on Netflix every now and then without feeling any guilt about what we *should* be doing.
It’s possible. I know it is, because if there’s one thing I know how to do, it’s truly relax.
That’s not to say I’m always relaxed – nobody is!
But I do know how to let go of the worries and just relax & enjoy where I am now.
In fact, it’s since being able to take stock of the now and be satisfied that I’ve found my writing mojo again, along with confidence levels I didn’t think I’d reach, doing more than I’ve felt able to in years, and feeling pretty damn contented most of the time.
So let me give you the skinny…
You are not supposed to have everything figured out.
You don’t need to work your damn tail off every moment of every day (or feel guilty for not doing so).
You are allowed to experience life without needing it to get you somewhere or have meaning other than the enjoyment of it.
You are allowed to be yourself, even if that means you’re not always at your “best” (reminder: nobody is 100% ALL the time).
Most of all, you are allowed to have some down time without feeling like you’re wasting time. It’s not wasteful to take time out to fill your cup, relax in the bath, or leave the bloody housework alone for a few days while you get into a good book/tv-series binge/game.
It’s time to stop feeling guilty all the time.
It’s time to start appreciating where you are right now.